5 Things Motherhood Has Taught Me

"It takes someone brave to be a mother, someone strong to raise a child, and someone special to love someone more than herself."

Motherhood is a choice you make every day, to put someone else's happiness and well being ahead of your own, to teach the hard lessons, to do the right thing even when you're not sure what the right things are and to forgive yourself, over and over again for doing something wrong.

There will be so many times you feel like you've failed, but in the eyes, heart, and mind of your child, you are a super mom.

Motherhood is a state of being a mother and being a mother is a tiring 24/7 job which you are not paid yet very rewarding.

I never knew anything about being a mother not until I become one.

Motherhood is a progress wherein you learn every day.

Since my kid just turned 2 last June, I would love to share with you the awarding experience of being a mother and what motherhood has taught me:

(1) UNCONDITIONAL LOVE

Have you felt loving someone without any reason at all?

He/she gives you the butterflies and heartbeat, no one else can do.

Even when my daughter is still my tummy, I can actually feel the connection and the bond we had.

It seems like I am loving someone who I never met before yet.

Unconditional love isn't just what we feel.

It just means love with no strings attached.

That means our child doesn't have to be or do anything to earn our love.

We love them exactly she/he is.

I felt like whatever she does, I will still love her no matter what.

(2) I FOUND THE RIGHT DIRECTION IN MY LIFE

Before I had a baby, I will be honest that I actually don't know what life would offer me.

I don't have any idea what my life will turn out.

Not until I received this amazing gift, my life seems to have a sense of direction.

I become more future-oriented and plan things differently when I was still single.

I transformed into a different person and think about me and my child's welfare.

I started to become serious in my decision making and impulsiveness.

Everything seems to have a purpose in my life right now and all the things I am doing is for me and my kid.

(3) IT TAKES A LOT OF PATIENCE

When you know me a few years ago, you would say that I am that kind of person who loses her patience so much.

But of course, when you become a mother, you need to grow some patience.

I am not going to lie, but this task is harder than I thought, especially when your kid is growing fast.

Some mother would say that it's nice to remember those days when their kid is still a baby and when they are not yet walking. (some of you can relate? ha-ha)

Also, for a non-breastfeeding mom like me, waking up a few times at night to give them milk is a challenging part, but this task gives me a chance to become patient by controlling my emotions and I just get used to it every day.

I am not going to lie, but I still struggle with this each and every time and I know it will become easier as the years go by.

(4) ALWAYS FORGIVE

It's not always easy to forgive, especially when it's yourself that the one you need to forgive.

Nobody's perfect I think and it also applies to be a mother.

I think being a mother is an ongoing everyday learning.

Whatever mistake you did, there is always a lesson you will learn from it.

That's why every time we commit a mistake or felt like we are not doing our best to be a mom, always forgive the fact that we are only human and we're not perfect at all.

(5) DON'T COMPARE YOURSELF

Every journey you take from being a mother differs from other mothers too.

It's nice to get some inspiration from people who become mothers too, though it's not nice to compare yourself to them.

There's no such thing as a success unless you believe in yourself.

You know that whatever the society throw at you, you will basically just shrug it off because you know yourself better than them.

I know society really gives a great impact to a person, especially when they are being judged on how they handle motherhood.

You know you are enough and will always be enough for your kids whatever the situation is.
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I believe that you gradually learn every day from being a mother.

And the success factor only lies within you.

And no one will ever know what you've been through.

So cheers for all the mothers out there who are persistent to learn every day!

How do you find my list?

Can you share some of the things motherhood has taught you?

Let me know your thoughts.

Thanks for reading.

Have a great week ahead.

XOXO

ZARRAH

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